Frailty of Human Mind

We all like those somethings. The somethings in life which you wish should never change.

The street side burger guy, your favorite small Chinese outlet, the chai wallah in front of your college, the kid of the neighbor when you visit village of your grandparents, the pani puri walla bhaiyaa who always gives you a complimentary puri, the small garage guy down the road where you get the bike punctures fixed immediately.. all these are just examples of things we would love never change. At the same time we expect our lives to change. We want bigger and better things. We want to fly to amazing destinations in the world, earn in pounds and dollars, change the bike which we ride and upgrade to our dream car, buy the flat in a posh locality, wear branded clothes and shoes, get the latest play station and watch movies at the most expensive theaters and eat at five star hotels. But when we visit the places mentioned earlier we actually wish that they would remain the same. Without any progress or upgrade or change. No matter what. Isn’t this wishing a frailty of human mind?

We buy a new bike, a new car, new jeans, new shoes. we get into a relationship with an amazing person who entertains and interests you immensely. we spend time with these new things in our life. whether it be bike, car, jeans, shoes or the person we share a part of our life with them. But as the time progresses we get more and more disinterested and ignorant to the same things and persons who were the center of your world at some point of time. We want them in our lives as a part of our life but not with the same intensity that we once had for them. They should be there in your parking, in your closet, in your shoe rack or in your own room sitting or sleeping right next to you but whether to take them for a ride, whether to wear them, whether to put them on and go for a walk or whether to turn around and give them a warm hug totally depends on how much need you for them at the specific moment. If there is no need the old bike and car would just make close relationship with the dust in your parking, the jeans would gradually go to the shelf of the clothes which you almost never wear and same treatment for the shoes. The person would go down the list of frequently chat or messaged in your email/chat alerts. The more inhumane part comes in when we notice other better and recent and fresh bikes, cars, jeans, shoes and yes eventually, persons. Weird part is no one feels anything much when you sell the bike and car to the local garage guy or some agent, or when Mum throws away the unused jeans and shoes. Most importantly the inhumane side is noticed when you dump a person with whom you shared your life. He or she just fades away in the darkness caused because of ignorance, negligence and disinterest or else in the blinding light of some new attractive person who walks into your life. Isn’t this ease with which we dump the things we once cared and loved a frailty of human mind?

We love and protect our parents and our sisters and brothers and our children. We are supportive and encouraging to them when they do something good and we try to stop them when they are doing something destructive. Most importantly we do it with passion and from our heart. We won’t think twice when encouraging them or discouraging them depending on what they are doing. What changes when you see your friend’s children or sister or someone who is not that directly connected to us do something wrong. Aren’t we passive about that? Some young boy, driving his bike in a very dangerous way, cruising through the traffic, not heeding the old people walking on the side, blaring the horn. This young guy stops for the signal just besides you. Aren’t you supposed to tell his about his misbehavior? Do we say anything? And why we don’t say anything? Is it because we are afraid of this person or we are plain uninterested in the pain he has caused? How many of us will confront a person misbehaving with a girl in the mall? What does it take to ring a door bell when you can hear loud voices and someone crying and shouting? That one confrontation with the person on the bike, or saying this one sentence with conviction and seriousness ‘Do not misbehave with the girl!’ at the mall or one finger to ring that doorbell might change or in some cases even save some one’s life. But we are way too ignorant to make this effort.. Calling it an effort itself is an over statement. Isn’t this inactivity and ignorance to day to day issues, which do not directly threaten your comfort. convenience or safety a frailty of human mind?

We always want things to change. we want our boss to treat us fairly and with respect. We want the son or daughter to be punctual, ethical and under our command. We want the rains to stop when commuting to office, and start when you are smoking under the shade of your terrace, we want wife to be understanding when we are stressed. We want neighbor’s mother to keep the volume low when watching her daily soaps and their children to play cricket quietly when you are working from home. It’s always something that we want to change. Or more aptly we want IT to change, automatically even without slightest effort from our side. The easiest thing in the world is wishing the someone else changes their way and you receive the benefits. Have we ever though that might be I should try to change?

Changing everything and everyone isn’t possible.

So why waste time and life in trying to do that?

can we make some changes in ourselves to better adapt and stay happy?

Whenever change is not possible can we try and endure the same with an easy smile?

Write up is titled Frailty.

Definition of the word is – a fault due to weakness especially of moral character.

This frailty causes confusions, world wars, accidents, emotional traumas and everything else this world suffers with.

Once we let go of these frailties the life can be a beautiful vacation with fresh faces and enchanting smiles around you.

Do not misbehave with anyone and do not accept misbehavior.

Do not make any one sad and do not accept the sadness which someone causes for no reason.

Care of yourself and for others equally. More care you give more care and positive energy you get.

Appreciate when people help you and spend time on you. It has to be a two way communication, just make sure it’s taken care of from your side.

Live and let live. And live with a smile on your face and head held up.

Living any way else than that is as good as not living.

Let go of these frailties of human mind and then experience the ‘high’ and peace of mind which will help you live. Really live.

Try it.